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These are the moments of motherhood to bottle and you have done that so beautifully Tansie. Yesterday, my daughter asked to take her training wheels off her bike. I said sure thinking she would ask for them back on in a matter of minutes, as she has done in the past, but then... she just glided. It happened! She spent the day riding up and down and around our house with this new found sense of accomplishment and pride. I was humbled and in awe. All it takes is time. 🥹

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Ooohhh I think seeing the pride in their own eyes is the most precious thing. When they’ve mastered something that has them glowing from within, it’s these tiny moments of growing up that are so heart filling! We are so lucky to get to witness these things 💛

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This is such an emotive read Tansie. I felt like was there with you and found myself tearing up at points 🩵

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Thanks, Jennifer. In the moment, I so wanted to film it all, but instead, I savoured every moment and took it all in with my eyes, hoping I would be able to do justice to what I felt by writing about it later. It was a moment in time I don't want to forget.

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Tansie this was so beautiful 💕 I especially loved your approach to motherhood and your raw honest reflection thinking “What should I do? What is he scared of? How can I fix this to bring him back to something I knew he loved?”

Because that is totally me….

And then when you landed on “The answer was, as it so often is, let him be.”

It was one of those…. Yup… so so true moments 💕 thank you for sharing!!

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Thanks Megan, It's so hard not to be in the fixing mind frame, isn't it? I feel like I keep getting the same lessons sent over and over. Hopefully this time it sinks in a little deeper!

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It truly is- I’m going to come back to this story in my mind when I need to take a beat! Thank you for that 🥰

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Thankyou Tansie, a beautiful piece. A very proud grandpa (or Gaga to Sonny) sitting here with tears in his eyes xxx

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Thanks Richard, I definitely was writing this with family reading it in mind. xxx

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Over and over again, I learn that lesson as a mother, let him be. Thank you for sharing this story.

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Such beautiful writing, Tansie, and such beautiful parenting.

My boys are having very different but equally emotion-inducing adventures today. Last night they went for a sleepover at their friend's, and today their friend's mum is taking twenty kids - twenty! - to a theme park here. The mum has assured me that she's enlisted lots of responsible adults to help out, and encouraged me to use the kid-free time to get my own stuff done. Part of me wants to go and hover over the boys and make sure they're safe - there are roller coasters! - but part of me knows that they'll be so empowered by having done stuff without their parents insisting on leading the way. It's a hard but necessary step in their journey, and in mine. We're all growing up and letting go together!

Thank you for sharing these beautiful reflections. x

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